Friday, July 19, 2013

Not Presidential, but PERSONAL! What did it mean to you? What did you hear?

I know someone is whining about President Obama making the response he did today-- and regardless of your political affiliation--(note: I am not a 100% straight ticket ANYTHING)- you had to be able to at least understand what he said-- from one side of it or another.  As a black person or a non black person.  Maybe you were the one who clutched your purse tighter-- locked your doors-- or you were the one followed-- the one watched a little closer-- If you didn't hear it--

here is the transcript-
Well, I -- I wanted to come out here first of all to tell you that Jay is prepared for all your questions and is -- is very much looking forward to the session.
Second thing is I want to let you know that over the next couple of weeks there are going to obviously be a whole range of issues -- immigration, economics, et cetera -- we'll try to arrange a fuller press conference to address your questions.
The reason I actually wanted to come out today is not to take questions, but to speak to an issue that obviously has gotten a lot of attention over the course of the last week, the issue of the Trayvon Martin ruling. I gave an -- a preliminary statement right after the ruling on Sunday, but watching the debate over the course of the last week I thought it might be useful for me to expand on my thoughts a little bit.
First of all, you know, I -- I want to make sure that, once again, I send my thoughts and prayers, as well as Michelle's, to the family of Trayvon Martin, and to remark on the incredible grace and dignity with which they've dealt with the entire situation. I can only imagine what they're going through, and it's -- it's remarkable how they've handled it.
The second thing I want to say is to reiterate what I said on Sunday, which is there are going to be a lot of arguments about the legal -- legal issues in the case. I'll let all the legal analysts and talking heads address those issues.
The judge conducted the trial in a professional manner. The prosecution and the defense made their arguments. The juries were properly instructed that in a -- in a case such as this, reasonable doubt was relevant, and they rendered a verdict. And once the jury's spoken, that's how our system works.
But I did want to just talk a little bit about context and how people have responded to it and how people are feeling. You know, when Trayvon Martin was first shot, I said that this could have been my son. Another way of saying that is Trayvon Martin could have been me 35 years ago. And when you think about why, in the African- American community at least, there's a lot of pain around what happened here, I think it's important to recognize that the African- American community is looking at this issue through a set of experiences and a history that -- that doesn't go away.
There are very few African-American men in this country who haven't had the experience of being followed when they were shopping in a department store. That includes me.
And there are very few African-American men who haven't had the experience of walking across the street and hearing the locks click on the doors of cars. That happens to me, at least before I was a senator. There are very few African-Americans who haven't had the experience of getting on an elevator and a woman clutching her purse nervously and holding her breath until she had a chance to get off. That happens often.
And you know, I don't want to exaggerate this, but those sets of experiences inform how the African-American community interprets what happened one night in Florida. And it's inescapable for people to bring those experiences to bear.
The African-American community is also knowledgeable that there is a history of racial disparities in the application of our criminal laws, everything from the death penalty to enforcement of our drug laws. And that ends up having an impact in terms of how people interpret the case.
Now, this isn't to say that the African-American community is naive about the fact that African-American young men are disproportionately involved in the criminal justice system, that they are disproportionately both victims and perpetrators of violence. It's not to make excuses for that fact, although black folks do interpret the reasons for that in a historical context.
We understand that some of the violence that takes place in poor black neighborhoods around the country is born out of a very violent past in this country, and that the poverty and dysfunction that we see in those communities can be traced to a very difficult history.
And so the fact that sometimes that's unacknowledged adds to the frustration. And the fact that a lot of African-American boys are painted with a broad brush and the excuse is given, well, there are these statistics out there that show that African-American boys are more violent -- using that as an excuse to then see sons treated differently causes pain.
I think the African-American community is also not naive in understanding that statistically somebody like Trayvon Martin was probably statistically more likely to be shot by a peer than he was by somebody else.
So -- so folks understand the challenges that exist for African- American boys, but they get frustrated, I think, if they feel that there's no context for it or -- and that context is being denied. And -- and that all contributes, I think, to a sense that if a white male teen was involved in the same kind of scenario, that, from top to bottom, both the outcome and the aftermath might have been different.
Now, the question for me at least, and I think, for a lot of folks is, where do we take this? How do we learn some lessons from this and move in a positive direction? You know, I think it's understandable that there have been demonstrations and vigils and protests, and some of that stuff is just going to have to work its way through as long as it remains nonviolent. If I see any violence, then I will remind folks that that dishonors what happened to Trayvon Martin and his family.
But beyond protests or vigils, the question is, are there some concrete things that we might be able to do? I know that Eric Holder is reviewing what happened down there, but I think it's important for people to have some clear expectations here. Traditionally, these are issues of state and local government -- the criminal code. And law enforcement has traditionally done it at the state and local levels, not at the federal levels.
That doesn't mean, though, that as a nation, we can't do some things that I think would be productive. So let me just give a couple of specifics that I'm still bouncing around with my staff so we're not rolling out some five-point plan, but some areas where I think all of us could potentially focus.
Number one, precisely because law enforcement is often determined at the state and local level, I think it'd be productive for the Justice Department -- governors, mayors to work with law enforcement about training at the state and local levels in order to reduce the kind of mistrust in the system that sometimes currently exists.
You know, when I was in Illinois I passed racial profiling legislation. And it actually did just two simple things. One, it collected data on traffic stops and the race of the person who was stopped. But the other thing was it resourced us training police departments across the state on how to think about potential racial bias and ways to further professionalize what they were doing.
And initially, the police departments across the state were resistant, but actually they came to recognize that if it was done in a fair, straightforward way, that it would allow them to do their jobs better and communities would have more confidence in them and in turn be more helpful in applying the law. And obviously law enforcement's got a very tough job.
So that's one area where I think there are a lot of resources and best practices that could be brought bear if state and local governments are receptive. And I think a lot of them would be. And -- and let's figure out other ways for us to push out that kind of training.
Along the same lines, I think it would be useful for us to examine some state and local laws to see if it -- if they are designed in such a way that they may encourage the kinds of altercations and confrontations and tragedies that we saw in the Florida case, rather than diffuse potential altercations.
I know that there's been commentary about the fact that the stand your ground laws in Florida were not used as a defense in the case.
On the other hand, if we're sending a message as a society in our communities that someone who is armed potentially has the right to use those firearms even if there's a way for them to exit from a situation, is that really going to be contributing to the kind of peace and security and order that we'd like to see?
And for those who resist that idea that we should think about something like these "stand your ground" laws, I just ask people to consider if Trayvon Martin was of age and armed, could he have stood his ground on that sidewalk? And do we actually think that he would have been justified in shooting Mr. Zimmerman, who had followed him in a car, because he felt threatened?
And if the answer to that question is at least ambiguous, it seems to me that we might want to examine those kinds of laws.
Number three -- and this is a long-term project: We need to spend some time in thinking about how do we bolster and reinforce our African-American boys? And this is something that Michelle and I talk a lot about. There are a lot of kids out there who need help who are getting a lot of negative reinforcement. And is there more that we can do to give them the sense that their country cares about them and values them and is willing to invest in them?
You know, I'm not naive about the prospects of some brand-new federal program.
I'm not sure that that's what we're talking about here. But I do recognize that as president, I've got some convening power.
And there are a lot of good programs that are being done across the country on this front. And for us to be able to gather together business leaders and local elected officials and clergy and celebrities and athletes and figure out how are we doing a better job helping young African-American men feel that they're a full part of this society and that -- and that they've got pathways and avenues to succeed -- you know, I think that would be a pretty good outcome from what was obviously a tragic situation. And we're going to spend some time working on that and thinking about that.
And then finally, I think it's going to be important for all of us to do some soul-searching. You know, there have been talk about should we convene a conversation on race. I haven't seen that be particularly productive when politicians try to organize conversations. They end up being stilted and politicized, and folks are locked into the positions they already have.
On the other hand, in families and churches and workplaces, there's a possibility that people are a little bit more honest, and at least you ask yourself your own questions about, am I wringing as much bias out of myself as I can; am I judging people, as much as I can, based on not the color of their skin but the content of their character? That would, I think, be an appropriate exercise in the wake of this tragedy.
And let me just leave you with -- with a final thought, that as difficult and challenging as this whole episode has been for a lot of people, I don't want us to lose sight that things are getting better. Each successive generation seems to be making progress in changing attitudes when it comes to race. I doesn't mean that we're in a postracial society. It doesn't mean that racism is eliminated. But you know, when I talk to Malia and Sasha and I listen to their friends and I see them interact, they're better than we are. They're better than we were on these issues. And that's true in every community that I've visited all across the country.
And so, you know, we have to be vigilant and we have to work on these issues, and those of us in authority should be doing everything we can to encourage the better angels of our nature as opposed to using these episodes to heighten divisions. But we should also have confidence that kids these days I think have more sense than we did back then, and certainly more than our parents did or our grandparents did, and that along this long, difficult journey, you know, we're becoming a more perfect union -- not a perfect union, but a more perfect union.
All right? Thank you, guys.

COLD water = CLEAN hands-- uh I don't think so- no warm water in bathrooms at schools??

OK OK-- so I can't be the only one asking this question-- I asked once before and was told well it is because children could get burned-- so is it not possible to set a certain temperature in the bathrooms-- like some people do on the home "hot" water heater? 

I have been in bathrooms at schools and no hot water & sometimes no soap-- well I don't know if the soap even does much good if you use cold water-- who am I though-- so I went to the experts- Per SCDHEC-- good hand washing requires WARM water!! Think of all the diseases & germs spread daily between children that maybe could be avoided or at least CUT down on if the water was just a little WARM-- I don't want kids being scalded, but can they at least get LUKE warm-- ok well you may not agree.  Can you please allow my boys to use the warm water that maybe -- Are at least I hope that the adults have access to in the nurses office or the kitchen-- ??
Many people wash their hands, and think they are doing a good job. But, as basic as it may seem, there are some steps to follow to be sure you are being as effective as possible whenever possible:
  • Use warm, running water
  • Use soap. Antibacterial soap is good, but any soap is better than none
  • Rub your soapy hands together for 10 - 15 seconds, about as long as it takes to sing the ABC's. It is the soap and the rubbing combined that helps remove germs
  • Be sure to wash the backs of your hands, between the fingers and under the fingernails
  • Rinse your soapy hands with clean, warm water
  • Pat dry with a clean paper towel
  • Use the paper towel to turn off the water faucet and then throw the paper towel away
EHOW says

How and When To Wash

  • When washing your hands, use soap with the warmest water you can, but don't fret if only cold water is available. As long as it's running and clean, you'll be fine. Lather up both sides of your hands from your wrists to the tips of your fingers, and don't forget to scrub between your fingers. Do this for about 20 seconds, then rinse most of those infection-causing bugs right down the drain. Drying your hands with a clean cloth towel or a paper towel will do the job on the rest. Wash before and after preparing meals or eating meals, after being outside, after playing with pets, and after using the bathroom, changing diapers or cleaning up after your dog, cat or other animal.

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Thursday, July 18, 2013

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Tuesday, July 16, 2013

If it were your son that died in the hotel-- you would want help- Please sign petition-

Many of you if the entire world hasn't heard about the people who died in Boone, NC in the Best Western Hotel-- well if you haven't here is a link to the story.  But more importantly will you go to this LINK and sign the petition-- to make detectors a "MUST" in hotels!! Thanks

Subject: Carbon Monoxide Detection
My name is Darrell Williams and my 11 year old nephew, Jeffrey L Williams was killed by Carbon Monoxide leak in a Best Western Plus, Boone, NC hotel on June 8th.  The same room where he was killed, had two other adults lose their life to Carbon Monoxide, and still no CO detector. A Carbon Monoxide detector would have saved his life, and it would have cost the hotel about $40 to install.

That's why I signed a petition to The United States House of Representatives and The United States Senate.
Will you sign this petition? Click here:

So what you are GAY--- sorry I held up the grocery line...wanna go to church with me?

I knew the title would at least make you look twice!!! I was in the line today just doing what I thought would be a QUICK Buy 5 save $5 deal on the Magnum ice cream at Bilo-- yeah that didn't happen!!  I had just driven into Rock Hill from Columbia and was really wishing I had just gone home and left the ice cream when......

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The cashier couldn't get the coupons to work-- needed someone to over ride the competitor coupons and it all began.  So while I was waiting patiently-- the lady behind me had a loaf of bread and other food & snacks-- I started a conversation about how much bread my boys go through every day-- she saw my Agape jacket I was wearing and we talked about my job.  Then she said you should buy the 2lb of Southern Home it lasts longer-- she said I work two jobs and fix sandwiches for lunch.  I asked what kind of work do you do-- she said I have a landscape business-- hmmm you think you could give me a quote on doing some work for us?  We traded information.  Of course we are still waiting patiently for the cashier to finish!!! My new friend the landscaping woman says-- what is this extreme couponing? I said NO-- I just want these 5 items.  Of course now the line is longer and I said to her-- so what church do you go to.  She responds, "I am gay"-- I said what does that mean--  I asked about church not sex!  LOL-- she said well you know how people are they don't want gays in their church.  I said-- well I don't know where you have been, but you are welcome to come to my church with me!!!
We chatted a bit more, but it was a great opportunity to share the love of Christ and witness-- I shook her hand before leaving and told her to have a great day.  -- oh yeah and she will probably give me a quote on some landscaping!!

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